In my last post I was talking about these people I know getting divorced. The first couple are Travis and Sarah. Now, I've known Travis my entire life. We were in diapers together. So, I'd be comfortable in saying that I know him fairly well, obviously not as intimately as his wife, but no one does. Everybody thought Sarah was a little too "churchy" when they got together, but he kind of got his act together and grew up so everything was fine. They've been married for like 8 or 9 years or so. Apparently, out of the blue, Sarah just up and moved out. Travis didn't even know, he was on duty and one of his coworkers came in and said she was moving out and that he better get home. She decided she didn't want to be married anymore. She had a masters degree and he was only a firefighter and he wasn't ever going to be anything else and she needed more. Well apparently in this confrontation Travis put his hands on her and she made this big issue of falling down and hitting her head on something. She had this police officer (who is now her boyfriend, but remember she needed something better than a firefighter) come and take pictures, so now Travis can't get custody of his kids. Now, I know Travis blows up, but he's never hit anyone that I can ever remember, ANYONE much less a girl. Apparently, Travis isn't the only person that she cut out of her life, she also cut her parents and her church out of her life too. So that girl just went off the deep end I think. But to me, I think in a case like that you just need to let her go for awhile and she's probably going to come back in a few months begging for him to take her back.
Then there's Donna and Jason. Another one just totally out of the blue! Unfortunately in this case, not only is there a child involved, but step children too. My mom saw Donna at the store and that's how she found out and told me and I saw Jason at the daycare (our kids go to the same one) and I mentioned it to him and he was just like "Well, what can you do?" I was just dumbfounded, what do you say to that?
One is a neighbor of ours. Actually this one has turned out to be to my benefit. The guy had a son from a previous woman that I couldn't stand. Destin. He was always wanting to come play with Eva, but I couldn't stand the kid. And he was one of those kids you feel bad for because he'd say things like "My parents said I couldn't come home until supper time". So you'd get stuck with him. He was like 6 and he couldn't understand why I wouldn't let Eva who was 3 at the time go ride bikes out in the street by herself. So, anyway, the dad and stepmom are divorcing so he's gone off with his dad wherever. My mom said that the woman was just so casual about the whole thing when she told her. I think if I were gettting divorced for reasons other than like abuse or infidelity I'd be mortified!
And speaking of infidelity, of course I think that's a legitimate reason for getting divorced, but I don't think it's the end of the world either. I know a couple where the police officer husband cheated with an 18 year old high school student that was one of his DARE students. But they got through it, and I know other couples that made it through that. When we found out about the DARE student thing James and I had a discussion about infidelity and I told him that if he cheated on me I could probably get over it. Although, I did make the stipulations that he better tell me about it and I don't want to find out from somebody that saw them out together in public and decided to let me know and that it would have to be a lust thing and not someone he was really in love with.
Arrrr...ok, I gotta run. My computer is still not fixed and someone else needs this one!!