Monday, August 14, 2006

I'm still down

My computer is still broken with no hope of repair in the future. Work people are just being stupid about the whole thing. Anyway...

I had a pretty good weekend. We went swimming and out to lunch on Saturday. I cleaned and cleaned and cleaned and the house still looked kind of messy this morning. That's so frustrating! I did wash and fold a ton of laundry so that's something I can actually see as being done. Eva had a little friend over on Saturday. That was an experience. Lauren and Maria really didn't know what to think about that. I guess James and Eva met another new family last night and either Eva's supposed to go over there next weeekend or they're coming to our house or something. I'm glad she's making neighborhood friends. And James and I actually got in some good quality time with each other this weekend which was nice for a change.

I worked on Jen's band sampler RR. I think it looks very nice. I'm going to mail it out today, but unfortunately I don't have my camera with me and I don't have a scanner hooked up to a computer that actually works, so I don't think I'll be getting any pictures posted.

I've been thinking a lot about divorce lately. Not for me or anything before anyone freaks out. I know a lot of people who are all the sudden getting divorced. My mom and I were talking about how people are just so blase about the whole issue and how they act like it's no big deal despite the fact that all the people we know getting divorced are people with kids. The reasons that they're getting divorced seem so petty too. I know couples that have undergone serious issues and managed to pull themselves together. I have more to say about the issue, but I'm out of time and I can't really pull my thoughts together fast enough. What are your thoughts about it?


Cat said...

I'm very much against it except in extreme cases.

Jenny said...

I agree that lots of people are very blase about it and should really give more effort before throwing in the towel, especially when there are kids involved.

That said, I try very hard not to be judgemental about divorce. I am someone who came very close myself and my DH and I managed to work it out. However, if he hadn't been willing to make dramatic changes - we wouldn't be together anymore, and that would have been the right decision for not only me, but also for my son (DD wasn't born yet). Not only was his behavior unhealthy, my behavior in reaction to his was unhealthy and getting worse by the second.

We also don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Lots of people that probably thought they were good friends with me had no idea how bad things were between me and DH at home. Sometimes people don't want to air their dirty laundry.

Sarah said...

I agree with you Autumn. When my BIL and SIL got divorced a few years ago, it seemed really silly, especially at that point, and with 4 kids. It seems like such effort now and the kids are really lost in the shuffle a lot of the times.

Then on the other hand I see other people who really should be divorced and don't.

I'm just glad I'm happily married(mostly)!

Sorry about your work computer!

Erin said...

Do you need your computer to do your work? Seems like they would fix it, if so. And generally speaking, those who are casual about divorce were also casual about getting married, at least in my personal experience. If you go into a marriage with the "and if it doesn't work, I'll just get divorced" attitude, then #1: it's probably not the right person to be marrying, and #2: you shouldn't be getting married period. I think if people truly meant and took to heart their vows (and some do), and they truly want it to be forever, they will work harder to make it work. That said, there are times when it just can't work anymore, and it is truly for the best. But I don't think that is the case for one out of two marriages either.

Susan said...

I'm like Jenny - I try not to be judgemental about divorce (both mine and my DH's parents were divorced). On more than one occasion, my DH and I have come thisclose to getting divorced (and we have a small child). We managed to work it out, but I know that in some marriages, it's not possible to work it out.

But, I can understand what you're saying about people being blase about it these days. It's just sad.