tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12594529.post115582439309293609..comments2023-10-22T08:58:14.895-07:00Comments on GRITS: Divorce Part 2Autumnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17109886403670357674noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12594529.post-1155996755681378412006-08-19T07:12:00.000-07:002006-08-19T07:12:00.000-07:00My SIL kind of did the same thing. After 15 years...My SIL kind of did the same thing. After 15 years and 4 kids it seemed like one day she decided she didn't want to be married anymore. She cited my ex-BIL drinking problem, which he did have, in the first 3 years of the marriage and when she asked him to stop, he did, and hasn't had a drink since, and she had 3 kids since that time. She said she couldn't get "past it" and felt stifled by marriage, felt that she never got a chance to be young or single(admittedly she did marry at 21).<BR/><BR/>After that she went a little "nuts" I say. She asked for the divorce but lived in the house for nearly a year and only moved out days before the divorce was final. She gave custody of the kids to her husband, and basically lived like a teenager for a couple of years while she only worked a couple of part time jobs, paid zero child support, filed bankruptcy, and almost immediately started dating someone else, who's she's been with since(4 years), and recently married. I just didn't get it, the new guy is even more immature than her husband and drinks like a fish.<BR/><BR/>The big thing has been the kids, they are completely lost in the shuffle and I think she totally didn't think of them once in the whole process, one of them was just 4 years old and he often cried why his mom didn't love him anymore.<BR/><BR/>When it's just two adults, and some stuff, do what you want, but when you have kids, you need to think a lot harder. I know you can't stay together for the kids only, but they need to be a much bigger thought in the whole process. <BR/><BR/>Just my .02Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462538471199799261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12594529.post-1155843453449922962006-08-17T12:37:00.000-07:002006-08-17T12:37:00.000-07:00The summer DH and I got married, three other coupl...The summer DH and I got married, three other couples we know got married in the same backyard where we did. That was the summer of 2000, and now DH and I are the only couple still together. No signs of us splitting up yet, although that summer and that backyard seem to have been cursed, LOL.<BR/><BR/>Honestly, I think that people do get divorced to easily, but they get married much to easily as well.Elfinladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13516839321166733082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12594529.post-1155841252978764312006-08-17T12:00:00.000-07:002006-08-17T12:00:00.000-07:00My take on divorce - I DEFINITELY think people tak...My take on divorce - I DEFINITELY think people take it way to lightly nowadays and that is a shame. I mean, look at Hollywood and all the crap that goes on there. I would like to think that America is smart enough to NOT take cues from celebrities, but I think what goes on there exemplifies the problem. I told my hubby that he's stuck with me until I die (maybe thats why he's been so adamant about making sure I keep my life insurance policy current? Hmm.)<BR/>Anyway, that sucks about Travis. She wants better than a firefighter? Whats wrong with a firefighter? I want Jon to be one. I think their sexy. Is this the same girl that he was dating in high school? The one that he had the t-shrit and she had the matching t-shirt? Remember that?Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824627964873795310noreply@blogger.com